- A doctor
- A veterinarian
- An egyptologist
- Sarah from Jurassic Park
- A dolphin trainer
(All at various stages, not at once. Don’t worry, I wasn’t that eager.)
It’s interesting to look back and consider how life unfolds so differently than what we imagined for ourselves. Perhaps in the moment it’s a bit tragic the way life veers so far, far away from our dreams. But other times we can chuckle and thank God we aren’t running for our lives from a Tyrannosaurus Rex on some remote tropical island. I at least feel that way…
I am 24, I haven’t even made it to a quarter of a century, and I can already look back and see the way my anticipated life, my imagined future, is wildly divergent than my reality. I think I had decided I would get married at 25 (oops) and 16-year-old Bethany definitely thought 24-year-old Bethany would already be living somewhere halfway across the world. But I am thankful for the changes to my dreams, the way reality tempered them and made them vastly better than my own imaginings.
Getting married at four months shy of 21 was not a part of the plan, but the last three and half years have been far richer than anything I could have conjured up for myself. Moving away could be good, could have been fulfilling, but I will forever treasure the moments I have been able to share with my family and friends here in sunny CA in the last several years.
But sometimes dreams do happen. Mulch and I dreamed of gallivanting through Europe in the summer of 2014, a big dream that we didn’t know how we would accomplish. We bought a huge map, pinned it to the wall with some poor, unsuspecting earrings I had retired, and made marks on all the places we wanted to visit. While we didn’t end up in every country we had dreamed of, it still happened! Plus a brief stint in the Holy Land (another dream actualized).
Dreams are good. They motivate us, challenge us, push us to extend beyond the boundaries we put up for ourselves. But alternatively, they can limit us, giving us tunnel vision and cause us to miss out on all of the other opportunities surrounding us.
So, dream. Dream big. But hold onto your dreams lightly, and remember that sometimes life has bigger plans for us than we could have for ourselves.